Shit people say to female veterans

Shit people say to female veterans

  1. When the doctor at the VA raises his gray eyebrow and shoots quizzical looks at you while you hold your toddler, and then back again at your chart before finally asking if you’ve ever served in the military

Seriously? Look Doc, I didn’t marry into the right to enter this facility, I spent months (some of us years) and blood, sweat and tears for the right to receive this medical treatment. I’ve done more rotations overseas than you’ve changed those prescription eye glasses.

2. When you ask the woman behind the information desk of a major airport for directions to the USO and she responds, “you have to be accompanied by a servicemember to enter.

Accompanied? Lady, I am the servicemember.

3. When your mom sings a lullaby to your newborn child and then abruptly contributes her revelation that the child means you will never be deployed again. “They can’t deploy you if you have a child.”

The Army provides six weeks of maternity leave, Mom. Uncle Sam isn’t going to be understanding if I tell him I have a four-year-old at home and ISIS will have to wait a few years.

4. That look of surprise every female veteran gets when you’re dressed for drill and pregnant. “They can’t make you go when you’re pregnant!”

I’m pregnant, not disabled and I’m going to work! For me, work just happens to include a gaudy uniform with concrete strapped to my feet.

5. When you’re at a VFW function and people tell you how nice it is that you’re supporting your husband and other vets.

Excuse me? I am the veteran; he’s just a desk bitch.

6. When your dad gives you a hug at your pre-deployment ceremony and then announces to your family that you’ll be missed but he’s thankful he has a daughter going because females won’t cross the battle lines.

Dad, what fucking battle lines? I’m sure ISIS will find out quickly that an American woman is in their area and they’ll go ahead and disarm all of their IEDs and halt their guerrilla warfare tactics out of respect for my gender.

Do any of you have any similar experiences or funny/outrageous things people have said to you about your military experience? Share them in the comments below.

 

Remember, this is meant as a comical recap, it is not meant to belittle or create anger.

Debra

I'm a fast-talking high school English teacher, mother of two boys (the 2nd due in March), wife to an Army Lt., and photo-journalist for the Army Reserves. I'm slightly addicted to office supplies and I easily get carried away with projects and ideas; especially for the playroom and my classroom.

10 thoughts on “Shit people say to female veterans

  • February 18, 2016 at 5:47 pm
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    Whenever I happen to be with my Husband out shopping, I ask the store clerk if they give a Military discount, they say yes and immediately thank my Husband for his service. I of course quickly respond with “I am also a Veteran” .

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    • February 20, 2016 at 1:30 am
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      Oh I understand! My husband is also in the military and everyone, including my family, acts like he’s the only one serving. It’s not that I’m looking for recognition per se, but I find it incredibly demoralizing to be ignored and forgotten.

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  • February 19, 2016 at 3:20 am
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    Love this. It is so true. My favorite is when you are at the VA and the nurse, tech, or doctor call you Mr. So and So, and you stand up and start walking towards them and they ask if you’re husband is coming to the appointment. I am the patient, doc.

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    • February 20, 2016 at 1:29 am
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      So true Brooke! I get a lot of weird looks from the VA due to my age as well, I think. Age and gender…sooo frustrating!

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  • February 21, 2016 at 8:41 am
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    my top three favs are: 3. I have a military tattoo on my leg with my dog tags with name, entry date and a blank space for D date, when people comment on it they are like “oh that’s a great tribute, which family member did who get it for or who in your family served”! 2. I believe a lot of people still think we live inn the 50’s where females push paper around a desk – “u do what”??? AND number 1. Love, your wearing your family medals on the wrong side, only serving members wear them on the left side!” Right ……

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    • February 22, 2016 at 2:39 pm
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      It’s amazing that after all these years of women serving in the military, we’re still overlooked, underestimated and undervalued.

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  • February 21, 2016 at 1:04 pm
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    This isn’t something anyone said, but I’ve had three back surgeries at the VA and the toilets in the rooms always have those giant riser seats on them for older men. I literally have to hop up and my feet dangle.

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  • March 13, 2016 at 9:51 pm
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    When your dad gives you a hug at your pre-deployment ceremony and then announces to your family that you’ll be missed but he’s thankful he has a daughter going because females won’t cross the battle lines.

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